×
  • Search
    Generic filters
    Exact matches only
  • Your 1st Appointment
    • Make Appointment
    • Therapy & Counseling Facts
    • Therapy for All Ages
    • Paying for Services
  • Services
    • What We Treat
    • Inpatient Services
      • West Springs Psychiatric Hospital
      • Women’s Recovery Center
      • Circle Program
    • Outpatient Services
      • Aspen
      • Craig
      • Eagle
      • Frisco
      • Glenwood Springs
      • Granby
      • Grand Junction
      • Meeker
      • Rangely
      • Rifle
      • Steamboat Springs
      • Vail
      • Walden
    • Other Programs
      • Respite Services
      • Peer Support
      • Oasis Clubhouse
      • MAT
      • Supported Employment Service
  • Resources
    • Resources For Coping In Today’s World
      • Mental Health First Aid
      • Suicide Prevention
      • Talking With Others In Mental Distress
      • Coping Tips For Trauma & Distress
      • When Major Events Happen
      • Multiply Your Happy
      • Mental Health Care Kit
      • Resiliency Skills Training
      • Guided Meditations
    • Professional-Resources
      • Physician Referrals
      • General Referrals
      • Medication Assisted Therapy
      • Thought Leadership & Trainings
    • Understanding Mental Health Disorders
    • Understanding Drug & Alcohol Addiction
    • Forms & Documents
    • Client Advocacy
  • Careers
    • All Open Positions
    • Internships & Practicums
    • Benefits Package
  • About Us
    • Who We Are
      • Mind Springs Health FAQ
      • Board Of Directors
      • Our Psychiatric Team
      • Leadership Team
      • People & Locations
    • Partnerships
      • West Slope Casa
      • Zero Suicide
    • For The Media
    • Blogs & More
    • Terms of Use
    • Privacy Policy
  • GIVE
  • Search
    Generic filters
    Exact matches only

A Peer’s Perspective: Thoughts on Thoughts

A Peer’s Perspective:  Thoughts on Thoughts
January 30, 2020Featured ArticlesMental Health GeneralRecovery NewslettersTools and Resources

I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking and then problems fix themselves.”

–motivational speaker Louise L. Hay

We live in an information-rich era where it seems like there is more available to us than we can assimilate and process in a lifetime.  What I’ve seen, as we are bombarded with this veritable storehouse of data, news, social media and feeds coming at us from all directions, is that there is a wealth of opinions and feelings (many of which are negative) that form as people measure what they are seeing and hearing along with what they know. It’s no wonder that for many, our minds swirl and overflow with automatic thoughts that seem impossible to turn off at any given moment!

As if that wasn’t enough, many of us strive daily to navigate the thoughts that stem from traumatic events, challenges to self-esteem, anxiety and so on. I have had many conversations with people who have shared that they would love to get their minds to a place where the thoughts aren’t coming at them like a fast pitch machine in a batting cage. Negative and intrusive thoughts, as well as thoughts in general, do seem to take on a life of their own, don’t they? What if I told you that you could play an active part in managing these thoughts?  I hope you’ll stay with me for some helpful steps you can start taking today to begin doing just that!

Firstly, consider fact versus story–evaluating your thought to see if it is a narrative that you have woven around a situation, or if it is factual. As a young single mother I had an interaction with my younger son that left me mentally drained and had no resolution. It escalated as it seemed that neither of us was listening to what the other had to say, so I left his room dejected and spent. My young daughter asked me what was wrong and I replied that I feel like a failure as a parent (narrative). In her sage wisdom, she shared that I wasn’t a bad parent, her brother was just being what he was, a teenage boy (fact).

Just say no — literally. When a thought comes to mind, you have the power to welcome it or not. When you choose to mentally  say “no” or “stop”, and maybe even say it out loud, it can be an effective way to stop the cycle of thought long enough to begin to evaluate it further.

Create a new thought.  In the situation with my son, the story I told myself (what I knew at that time about myself based on my experiences and low self-esteem), assessed and determined that I had failed. If I had created a new thought it might have looked something like “parenting can really be hard and I’m pretty drained right now. I did my best for right now and I’ll take a breather before rethinking how I can talk with him moving forward.” Whether or not a resolution would have followed is something indeterminable, yet it certainly would have changed my mindset enough to see things clearer!

Finally, limit information. Today’s news and social media can exacerbate fears and anxious thoughts, especially if what is being shared/reported/retweeted relates to you.  I would like to challenge you to take a hiatus to see if this makes a difference.

Thoughts can certainly be startling and overwhelming. They capture your attention and derail your day in so many ways. Isn’t it empowering to know that you can temper their influence? I’d like to offer the words of Bob Dylan to bring this to a close, “Gonna change my way of thinking, make myself a different set of rules…”

 

Jill Davis is an author, musician, actress and Peer Services Coordinator for Mind Springs Health who would like to hear your thoughts on thoughts.  Think about it, then email her at Peers@MindSpringsHealth.org or on Facebook.

Featured Articles

  • Message from Doug Pattison: Response to media messages May 23

    Mind Springs Health appeared in the news frequently recently, following the release of a tri-agency audit conducted by the State of Colorado. All three efforts...

  • Doug Pattison’s Message Regarding Recent Articles Mar 24

    The need for behavioral health services is growing in Colorado, now more than ever. For all of us in this industry, we know that there...

  • Doctor says telehealth ‘not going anywhere’ Mar 15

    While virtual learning has certainly garnered no shortage of critics over the last two years, a similar but unrelated pandemic technology has received earnest praise....

Categories

  • Featured Articles (74)
  • In the News (55)
  • Mental Health General (56)
    • Depression and Anxiety (1)
    • Resiliency (5)
  • Substance Use Disorders (15)
    • Recovery Newsletters (10)
  • Suicide Awareness & Prvention (1)
  • Tools and Resources (31)
  • Uncategorized (1)
SEE ALL BLOG POSTS

HELPFUL LINKS

FORMS AND DOCUMENTS
MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES
TREATMENT LOCATIONS
CAREERS
EVENTS
FAQ
NEWSLETTER SIGNUP

LEGAL

CLIENT RIGHTS
HIPAA PRIVACY NOTICE
NOTICE OF NON-DISCRIMINATION
PRIORITY POPULATIONS
PRIVACY POLICY
TERMS OF USE
NEEDS ASSESSMENT

The Latest in Behavioral Health

  • Message from Doug Pattison: Response to media messages May 23

    Mind Springs Health appeared in the news frequently recently, following the release of a tri-agency audit conducted by the State...

  • Doug Pattison’s Message Regarding Recent Articles Mar 24

    The need for behavioral health services is growing in Colorado, now more than ever. For all of us in this...

  • Doctor says telehealth ‘not going anywhere’ Mar 15

    While virtual learning has certainly garnered no shortage of critics over the last two years, a similar but unrelated pandemic...

Site designed with ❤ by
©2022 Mind Springs Inc. All Rights Reserved